Saturday, August 31, 2013

Catholic virtual wars 01 - Time for a Cease Fire


This kind of help, Holy Mother Church does not need


Someone hit the pause button...

Its with great sadness and disappointment that I see Catholics using social media to berate other Catholics in a recent string of discussions.  To be clear, I'm not talking about Catholics who discuss the positions of other Catholics in a calm and rational way, but Catholics who are going after others in a very personal way and sometimes  over mere splinters in the eye (of course, it seems like a log to them, but it is probably just the log in their own eye giving them this impression).

I won't point to any part of the discussion because A) I'm disgusted by what I have seen and, B) the lines of virtue, and perhaps even morality, have been crossed in some of those discussions - most especially by some com-boxers (hiding behind anonymity, of course).

Just like I see no need to name names to discuss a position, I see no need to label or identify groups or factions involved, or to analyze these things because it would only throw fuel on a raging fire. This distracts from a larger discussion on Catholic virtue in social media and new media. So, that's just another lightening rod and it always gets people in trouble.

As for the present controversy, I have seen some good points raised in certain posts and some thoughtful comments, as well.  I wanted to link to them, but those discussions give names and that is what I am trying to avoid.  Naming names rather than discussing positions in general can be a lightening rod.  This means, it goes from personal, to very personal.

I began blogging in 2006 after about a year of involvement in several Catholic forums and I don't recall seeing back then the kind of division, and even factionalism, I see today. It's troubling. In fact, criticizing other Catholics online has become a sport for some individuals and their followers, charity and virtue be damned.


Some think they have a license to defend the Church in ways that are lacking in charity and virtue because they have been hurt and are angry.  In fact, the very word "charity" drives them nuts and in the process of mocking false charity, the baby gets thrown out with the bath water.  This kind of behavior isn't done for love of others; it's done to scratch an unbearable itch called, "venting."  Venting is not a virtue. In fact, everything we read from the saints tells us venting (or complaining) is faulty.  Any confessor worth his salt, if you confess stewing in the sins and faults of others, will tell you to knock it off and go spend the time on something more productive.  The spiritual dangers the pharisees were in come to mind.


It would be good if we could all get back to talking about positions rather than people and groups. I can understand why some would want to respond directly once another shoots from the hip in an apparent trip down rash-judgment-lane in a public way.   In fact, part of the problem is Catholics policing of other Catholics - dangerous for the policed who may feel a need to respond (and in an intemperate way if they are not careful), dangerous for friends of the policed (who may derail a good defense with an inflammatory expression or two), and those doing the policing for obvious reasons (who seem not to realize they are giving evidence of judging the motives or hearts of their targets).

At times the world of Catholic social media - especially where anonymity reigns, such as in comment boxes, resembles a virtual Catholic gang war where mouth and keyboard serve as powerful weapons used to hurt others in rival faction(s). What is getting lost in all of this is that every one of us are on display for the world to see.  Someone else is watching too, and He misses nothing. All motives, whether we recognize them yet in ourselves or not, do not escape God's notice.

Concupiscence - Human Fallen Nature and Gravitation to Critics


We who engage in any kind of media or new media, be it simply sharing things on Facebook or running a blog to making audio and video for TV, radio, or internet, need to do a collective examination of conscience.  If a member of the online Catholic community persists in spending an inordinate amount of time focused on what they believe are the faults of  other Catholics, then we need to recall the free will given to all by God and leave it in his hands. We could do a Holy Hour for the person instead of trying to reason with the unreasonable.

This is also true regarding those who use their free will to feed at watering holes which get more hits for their criticism of bishops and other Catholics than it does for anything catechetical or instructive they may offer.  Concupiscence will lead people into talking about the faults of others, and it will lead people to follow others who talk about it, then talk about it themselves.  Truly, that kind of "evangelization" the Church does not need. While we can count the number of people commiserating with such critics; we cannot count the number of people who were turned away from the faith by the caustic behavior they witnessed.  Followers need to reflect on whether they are really growing spiritually through such things, or are they satisfying their itching ears to hear things they probably have no need to hear, but for the sheer pleasure of hearing the thing. If it doesn't move you to love others, including those with whom you disagree, you probably don't need to hear it.  Pope Benedict XVI disagreed with others, but was always mindful of their dignity.

People who are learning the painful realities about why we have lost so many Catholics the last 50 years become outraged and don't understand why everyone else around them is not outraged.  But this presumes that disquiet and visible anger are some kind of "virtues." That's something you may experience when you first learn about something disturbing - and that's okay for a brief period. But, if you are experiencing this on a daily basis, you need to get off the web and go read the Way of Perfection by St. Teresa of Avila or the Introduction to the Devout Life by St. Francis De Sales. First, see a good confessor and tell him how much time you were spending on line and what you were watching and viewing that left you in such state of anger, outrage and disquiet.  You might want to ask how you know when you've crossed the line from anger into hatred to get enlightened.  If the words from a fellow Catholic is causing hatred to stir in you, then cut off that relationship (Mt 5:29,30).  Find sources that will  help you to not just grow in your knowledge about the faith, but in virtue, as well.

I've been through my outrage and disquiet phase years ago.  Every day there was some scandal being discussed in Catholic circles that got me all bent out of shape.  I can tell you from experience, there is nothing virtuous about remaining there and feeding on sources that fuel it.  It doesn't mean you give up discussing the problems, but outrage has to give way to prayer, trust in God, and learning how to win others over in a way that is most likely for them to use their God-given free will in a God-pleasing way.  If you put your time in to reading Sacred Scripture, the CCC, Church Documents, the Church Fathers, the Doctors, and other saints; and serious time in Adoration and prayer, you will find that disquiet and anger abating.  You will also find the kind of tools needed for evangelizing others - something hindered when you are in a chronic state of disquiet and anger. We need to purify our work online and mirror the love of Christ.  That's grace and when we make room for that by pushing out the anger and outrage, it has room to work.  I find this quality in some of the greatest pro-life workers like Msgr. Philip Reilly who founded the Helpers of God's Precious Infants.  You can't be effective unless you reach a point where love for the sinner is greater than the anger you may have for the sins they commit.  We don't win others for Christ; Jesus wins them through us if we give grace a place in our hearts, but it cannot co-exist with chronic outrage, disquiet, and anger turned into hatred.

The apparent addiction of some faithful to online Catholic equivalents to scandal  or gossip rags can only be tempered by learning about virtues and making an effort to practice them.  Learning about virtues, seeing them in practice in the saints, offsets the effects of human fallen nature, or concupiscence.  In fact, every effort to evangelize others must include this or things get out of whack.  That's what I believe we are witnessing with all this infighting between Catholics online. There is a rapid growth of understanding the Church, and what it teaches, but a lack of understanding in what really made saints - white martyrdom brought on by practicing virtues.

Once, when a very holy priest I knew at Grotto some years ago, who was serving as spiritual adviser to me as I worked through an article I was writing for Homiletic and Pastoral Review called, "Unconditional Worship in the God-Centered Mass" (April 2006), taught me an important lesson without saying a word.  In my draft were some expressions about the kinds of Masses I had been to and I got "snarky" about some of those experiences trying to be "cute."  Father, who has a doctorate in theology and in philosophy, shook his head in disapproval without looking up, then scratched out that text.  Seeing apparent disappointment on the face of that virtuous priest was pretty effective.  The pursuit of white martyrdom will often mean depriving ourselves of saying what we really feel like saying.  It's easier to let the words fly, especially if we think others will be entertained by them (or if we think they will bring more traffic).  As it turns out, my article was better without those things.  He kept me on the high road while teaching me a humbling lesson I have never forgotten. It was instrumental in giving up that bad practice in this blog (not that I don't slip now and then).

There are certainly problems caused by members in the Church who fall to the effects of their own concupiscence.  Anyone leading you to believe this is something new and exclusive to their point of view is looking for higher traffic and all that comes with it.  Go read the Fathers of the Church.  Go read the Omnibus of Sources on St. Francis of Assisi.  See what scandals they dealt with in their day.  They were with us since the Fall and will remain with us until the Second Coming.

How does Scripture tell us to deal with these things?  Here is the first part of Psalm 37 (Catholic RSV).

Fret not yourself because of the wicked, be not envious of wrongdoers! For they will soon fade like the grass, and wither like the green herb. Trust in the LORD, and do good; so you will dwell in the land, and enjoy security. Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act. 6 He will bring forth your vindication as the light, and your right as the noonday. Be still before the LORD, and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over him who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.


A word about defending the faith 





The sword is a symbol for defending the Church.  St. Michael the Archangel is often depicted as a warrior holding it for his defeat of the dragon (Apoc. Ch. 12)  In our quest to slay evil in our lives, we have to take care not to slay others or cut off their ears lest we perish by the sword of our own mouth or hand (Lk 22:50-51).

Something worth pondering are some words from St. Gregory Nazianzem (Oration 33)
Was He betrayed with a kiss? He reproves with a kiss, but smites not. Is he suddenly arrested? He reproaches indeed, but follows; and if through zeal you cut off the ear of Malchus with the sword, He will be angry, and will restore it. And if one flee in a linen sheet, Mark 14:51 he will defend him. And if you ask for the fire of Sodom upon his captors, he will not pour it forth; and if he take a thief hanging upon the cross for his crime he will bring him into Paradise through His Goodness. Let all the acts of one that loves men be loving, as were all the sufferings of Christ, to which we could add nothing greater than, when God even died for us, to refuse on our part to forgive even the smallest wrongs of our fellowmen.
Jesus did not want to be defended that way in Gethsemane and He doesn't want to be defended that way today or in any age.


Don't dwell in anger and pain; move past it by giving it to God.  


So many Catholics are wounded and hurt over things members in the Church have done over the past 50 years from the destruction of churches and loss of reverence in liturgy - falsely in the name of Vatican II - to the priest sex abuse scandal and cover-up.  Righteous anger is a topic I plan to get into, but it is deep and one that should be studied through the lens of Scripture in all it's fullness, and through the eyes of the Church Fathers and Doctors.  People will point to Christ turning over tables in the temple and it is not that simple as I will prove when I get time to share what I have found.

Don't take it out on other Catholics or even other Christians.  I see painful things said about Protestants, and even those who have become Catholic. Those of you who vent about Protestants-turned-Catholic who earn a living running a Catholic apostolate grieve me by what is said sometimes.  Here again, if you disagree with something someone says, talk about their position, and try contacting them to see if you can get a dialogue going. But, leave the boat anchor in the bay. People should be mindful of the parable of the workers in the vineyard (Mt 20:1-16).  This does not put an inviting face on our faith.

It's easy to lob condescending remarks about those who don't have the full Catholic understanding - be they Catholic or not; it takes work and virtue to learn how to engage people in thoughtful discussion; and, it takes fortitude and wisdom to know when to remain silent lest more harm than good be done.  Scripture tells us to bear with the others whose faith is weak (Romans 15:1).  That weakness can manifest itself in a question someone asks, but I think it most often manifests itself with attitudes and behavior that are not in harmony with the teachings of the Church.  You have to give people room to be human and let God do the judging (we can and should judge actions for what they are - i.e., we can judge a theft is happening when we see it - but motives and hearts can only be judged by God*).  When these people - others showing apparent weaknesses or faults - become the butt of jokes online, for all to see, how does that square with what St. Paul is teaching?  Don't waste your God-given talents this way.

When you respect the fact that God gave to all a free will, you then understand the need to use reason and to be a good witness in every respect.  Mocking, having fun at the expense of others weakness' in faith, or their sinfulness (grave or venial), "scoring points" on the best put downs or expressions that will get the highest traffic  - none of these things are God-pleasing. In fact, it's corrosive to authentic evangelization.  Think of someone you really love who has strayed from the faith and picture them witnessing some of the "edgy," and "in your face" stuff going around in Catholic circles online, complete with sophomoric name-calling and labels. This is the stuff of gutters, not the high road Catholics should be taking to be good witnesses.  Just because the latest fad in reporting involves this kind of behavior does not mean it has a place in Catholic media or social media used by Catholics.  A popular approach to writing, speaking, or reporting in any given age does not mean it's the virtuous approach.

A caution about subtle forms of vengeance

Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God; for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." No, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:19-21)

Some get satisfaction when another is called out in a very public way . This can be, for some, a subtle form of interior vengeance, in my humble opinion.  Imagine all of those men waiting to throw stones at Mary Magdalene and how their own self-righteous anger brought them a fleeting satisfaction. One could imagine them laughing at her as they were about to move in for the kill until Jesus stepped in and humbled them all. ** In addition, there is no regard for whether every element of the thing called out is true, and just as importantly - whether any attempt was made to get validation from appropriate sources, including the targeted person.

Before we accept  and run with a public criticism of another we should stop and ask ourselves whether the critic made any attempt to have a rational discussion over his concern with the parties in question, or did he just repeat something to a broader audience found elsewhere.   A truly virtuous person, who has a concern over something someone else has done, will look first for alternative explanations, rather than attribute, even if only in his heart, immoral, unethical, or simply un-virtuous motives.  Fr. John A. Hardon says imprudence is usually involved in rash judgment.  It helps to know his definition of imprudence.  I've used underling for added emphasis.

Sins against prudence that are either by defect or by excess. Sins by defect against prudence are: rashness, which acts before due consideration has been given; thoughtlessness, which neglects to take the necessary circumstances into account; and negligence, which does not give the mind sufficient time for mature deliberation.

Everyone should reflect on that before typing another key or producing any other media.  Please pray for me, as I pray for all of you.





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Updates and notes:

*Added for clarification.
** Added to help make the point
- Quote in St. Francis picture changed since it does not appear in his writings. 


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20 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thanks for speaking part of the solution and not the problem.

A favorite help of mine is to remember that other Catholics (or Protestants, Others or Nones) are never the enemy. Powers and principalities are. I try to remember this even when Catholics etc (including myself, sometimes) are doing diabolical work. The people themselves are never the enemy, they are only candidates for conversion. This helps temper the temptation to win.

I confess, it does not always work. But I find it helps a lot.

-Thinkling (@Think1ing)

JACK said...

Finally the voice of reason!
I wish that all bloggers would read, and implement, these thoughts.

Tominellay said...

...well said, Diane...

Anonymous said...

It sounds as if the Internet culture is perfectly designed to encourage those three sins of rashness, thoughtlessness, and negligence. Catholics can fight those temptations by being more aware of them. Thank you so much.

EW

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

Peg - please re-submit your comment, but without mentioning names. I understand your point, but if I allow that to slip through, then the comment box will descend into a defense of this person or that, rather than a defense of virtue.

Be creative. You can make your point without using names and without pointing fingers. I know people want to vent one way or another about the situation at hand, but we best diffuse things when we take the people out and discuss the underlying problems and offer solutions.

Thanks. I look forward to your comment.

Peg Demetris said...

When ever anyone says to you that there is a war inside the Catholic Church, between the so-called “Diehard Faithful” and those who they perceive as not “faithful” stop them in their tracks and say to them point-blank: The war is internal, not in the Catholic Church, but within each and every soul. Those who profess that thy know who the faithful are, are lacking in the faith themselves. As no one but our Lord knows what is each human heart. And what He is doing to build the “Temple “inside each of us, through His Church. To incite a war where there is none, is not as our Lord has asked of any of us and all that becomes of such nonsense is diversion and division away from the faith not a “Gathering” as we know is the fruit of the Holy Spirit. I pray for the entire Catholic Church today, to understand “Common Ground” in our Lord. To understand how to pray for patience, when our patience is tested, by things that take place beyond our control. For acceptance to all our brothers and sisters in Christ, regardless of the amount of faith and grace they have obtained to date, and rather than condemn them, “For they know not what they do”, pray for them also, to become more “Christ Like “as we all are called to be. Forgive us Lord. All of us.

The “Blame Game” has been taking place since the fall in the garden. When Adam told God: “The Woman made me eat the fruit”. There is only so long we can place “blame” on others, until we see we have only ourselves to blame. When that takes place, humility is allowed to prosper and all the graces of God take hold.

How long do we sit and blame everything on Vatican II, the “Unfaithful”, “Altar Girls” and every other “distraction” away from the faith, rather then our own lack of faith our Lord, who brought us to all this, who will lead us through….

There is no reason today, to look back on the past 40+ years of “a bad catechesis” when we have all the tools we need today to pull closer to our Lord, in our Catholic faith NOW, today, and not to continue to sit and wallow in what we perceive to be failures. Pick yourself up out of the self-pity and dust off the cobwebs. The Kingdom of God is at hand.

Take responsibility! Lord! It is MY FAULT my faith in you is not as strong as it should be!

Peg Demetris said...

Part two- For those who believe they need to "Protect The Church" from the inside and seek to help Him with the "Cleaning" - I share this in regards to the "Cleansing of the Temple" “And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but you have made it a den of thieves”

One day a woman made her way to our Adoration chapel with two family members. She was in a condition of great fear. Frozen in fear. She did not want to leave the tabernacle. She clung to it with a crucifix in one hand and begged me to place holy water on her. My heart cried for her. You see I knew her pain as I had been in a similar condition many years ago. It’s a state of deep repentance. As I was describing this poor woman to another person, I was quickly reminded this week of our Lord in the temple, flipping over the money changers tables. The body is the Temple. When the “world” sees a soul in this state, they call it mental illness but never even think of the sickness of the soul. Confession! Anointing of the Sick! THEN take them to a mental care facility, arming them with a book of prayers for the duration. When the soul is sick, everything in the body is sick. There is no pill you can take or that can be created by man to cure a sick soul. Only our Lord is the Doctor of your soul. If you allow Him to fix your soul, your entire life blossoms into great beauty!

You see, our Lord did this to me. My soul has always belonged to Him as do all of ours baptized in the faith. I had made His “Temple” a den of thieves by living a sinful life and falling away from His teachings. He came in to His “Temple” and removed everything He did not place in there, everything that did not belong there. When this happened, I too was in a state of dread and fear, frozen in fear because it is Him, allowing the soul to be “Sifted as Wheat”. Every sin I had ever committed was being tossed into the dumpster as I stood by it repenting as it was thrown in, feeling like a “hoarder” watching everything I had, my sinful possessions and passions, which was in fact worthless garbage, being tossed away. There was nothing else I could do but repent. I was guilty of everything. A disconnect comes when we do not understand this is for the greater good of our soul and we think that Christ want’s us to just stand there and not move as this is taking place. Or that He hates us and is punishing us. Dead wrong! It is very incorrect to think this way. God never wishes you to be frozen in fear. He needs you to trust in Him and continue moving closer to Him with the understanding He is everywhere you are to complete His will. If we remain frozen in fear, afraid to move, we miss out the beauty of his consolations through all life, that He is trying to replace all the death that He removed from your soul that you had built up separated from Him.

No table of junk is left unturned. But know this. Everything that is removed is replaced with great joy and love that explodes into a satisfaction of knowing He is God and He is with you but it takes lots of prayer to work through this along with using all the grace and gifts He gives to you. Leaning and trusting completely on Him as the Builder, turning the tables on living the sinful life and bringing you into “communion” with Him, in a life of prayer.

Our recompense is in Christ’s hands and when we submit, we are then crucified with Him.

Hosea 5:15b-16:2

Thus says the Lord:
In their affliction, they shall look for me:
“Come let us return to the Lord,
For it is he who has rent, but he will heal us;
he has struck us, but he will bind our wounds.
He will revive us after two days;
on the third day he will raise us up,
to live in his presence.”

Megan said...

Thank you Diane for this extremely well-thought-out post. It is so easy to lose sight of all the individual souls at risk, including our own, when we stereotype, lash out at, and uncharitibly judge people as impersonal groups. I pray that I can learn your sort of spiritual maturity.

Alan Sides said...

Couldn't agree more. Very wise assessment.

Alan.

Freyr said...

I have taken the liberty of linking to your article. I have always found your reflections on charitable behavior on blogs to be worth reading.
http://torontocatholicwitness.blogspot.ca/

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

Those who liked this post might like the next one in the series, just posted. Catholic Virtual Wars: Strident Catholics

http://te-deum.blogspot.com/2013/09/catholic-virtual-wars-strident-catholics.html

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

Hopefully, this is a live link: Catholic Virtual Wars - Strident Catholics

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

I regret that I had to delete another comment for talking about people and organizations.

I understand there is passion out there, but please respect the unspoken protocol of a blogpost without names.

I refuse to let this post and what I am trying to convey be limited to on situation with one set of parties.

Those wanting a comment moderated need to find a way to make their point without talking about others. That takes more work. Try praying first, it can clear the mind.

Christian LeBlanc said...

Big ships turn slow.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, Diane!

I am often utterly amazed (and not in a good way) at the posts that appear in comboxes. Of course many times they are responding to an already volatile subject matter which names names. Somehow the sin of detraction just does not seem to be part of the discernment process. I was concerned when I learned that bloggers are compensated based upon the number of "hits" they receive. Could this also be the motivating factor for some to deliberately "draw people in" with a provocative subject?

When we cease treating everyone with the dignity to which they are entitled and become abrasive know-it-alls we do not win souls for Christ and we do not gain the respect of others. Decapitating people at the knees and behaving as if somehow we know what the Catholic Church ought to be is pride at its worst. Attacking others personally, naming names and making public what are perceived faults is the exact opposite of what a Christian should be. Thanks, once again, for addressing this very serious issue with grace!

Mary Moskowitz

Anonymous said...

"Attacking others personally, naming names and making public what are perceived faults is the exact opposite of what a Christian should be."

I think a lot of the saints would disagree with you, especially when it came to busting up heresies. pjm

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

pjm - which saints are you referring to? Where they bishops addressing people in their care or equals? Or, where they addressing their superiors?

Sure, among the saints you will find some who were addressing superiors. Find how many times they did this, not just an isolated quote. I doubt they went out onto a street corner and thumped their chests in a fit of complaints on a daily basis. I'll bet if we look at most stories in full context, rather than cherry-picking quotes,
we might see a different picture emerge.

And just who was Pope Francis addressing his message in clericalism to - clerics and seminarians, or lay people so they could go stick the proverbial finger in the eyes of priests and bishops?

Here is a Scriptural approach: Let clerics examine their own consciences on clericalism and let lay people examine their consciences on what pertains to them.

How's that?

Diane Korzeniewski, OCDS said...

Oops typos in my first paragraph - where should be were.

Anonymous said...

Diane, I haven't been here in nearly a year and believe it to be providential that I "dropped in" today. You couldn't be more right if you tried. The all around vitriol has escalated the past few years - no matter what "flavor" of Catholic you may be.

I had already the past month or so come to the same conclusions you have.

God bless you!
Lorraine

Leticia Adams said...

Awesome post. I really really needed it. I've been in a chronic state of anger.