Showing posts with label Virtue and Mortification. Show all posts
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Wednesday, August 10, 2011

In all things charity....


When pictures began to flow of Rep. Gabby Giffords walking out on to the House floor, nothing else came into my mind but surprise.  In a momentary flashback playing through my head, I saw her on that stretcher, the funerals of others who died that day, the cryptic news stories about her progress which left me thinking she would never function at any reasonable capacity.  The woman took a bullet to the head by a madman and many wondered if she would be left a "vegetable".  


I was dismayed at some of the comments I saw by a small number of people, presumably, pro-life Catholic among them, who would say things that would make a pagan or non-Christian shake his head. 

A true pro-lifer treats all human life as precious.  We can never wish evil on someone for a good cause.   There is a lot more to being a good Christian and a Catholic than being pro-life.  It's not a matter of being pro-life or virtuous, we must be pro-life and virtuous. Our Lord taught us that in all things, there must be charity. Charity, which is love, is not just for those we like and agree with.  We love others, in season, and out of season.   We should have a righteous anger over abortion because it is murder.  But that anger cannot turn into contempt and hatred for others, which is a perversion of authentic righteous anger.  Fr. John A. Hardon teaches on "Righteous Anger" (emphasis mine in bold):

Justifiable indignation. It is permissible and even laudable when accompanied by a reasonable desire to inflict justifiable punishment. Christ himself was filled with righteous anger against the vendors who had desecrated the house of God. Such anger is allowable only if it tends to punish those who deserve punishment, according to the measure of their guilt, and with the sincere intention to redress what harm may have been done or to correct the wrongdoer. Otherwise the anger is sinfully excessive. The necessary provision is always that there is no tinge of hatred and no desire for revenge.


Kathryn Jean Lopez responds to the very kind of behavior with a classic example in an article at the National Catholic Register (now owned by EWTN) entitled, "Aborting charity".  She starts out:

I’d like to think of myself as pro-life. I’m not a member of Congress, and I don’t have a voting record. But I’ve written a few pieces, and made a few donations, and do what I can. Not all that I should. I should do more. Maybe I will after I write this rant.

It turns out I have a whole lot of work — never mind penance — to do. Because the other day, I wrote a piece praising Hitler.

You’re wondering what the heck I’m talking about, aren’t you? Color me just as confused.

When I wrote a brief “thank you” to Rep. Gabrielle Giffords, D-Ariz., for her brief but-had-to-be-overwhelming time spent on the House floor, reaction to the piece pointed directly to her abortion record.  

For example, when someone re-tweeted something else I had written on Twitter, she was asked: “@kathrynlopez Is this the same Kathryn Lopez who was gushing over @Rep_Giffords’ return to her 100% pro-abort voting record?”

I guess.

Except I didn’t gush over her return because she is a star of Emily’s List, the abortion-rights political action committee. And while I appreciate that numbers in Congress and elections absolutely matter — and I even appreciate the people who at times only focus on the numbers — I also appreciate that Giffords, a woman who was shot in the head in January, is my sister. She’s a child of God who has gone through a devastating trial. And in her first moment back on the House floor, she provided some inspiration. And not just a feel-good moment. Real inspiration. Brushes with death can do that. And feel free to accuse me of reading too much into a few C-SPAN moments. But it’s not the worst lesson, is it?

Abortion is, I believe, a scourge on our national soul and the human-rights issue of our lifetime. There are so many missing faces as we live our lives.

So I appreciate the passion and understanding of the deep eugenic roots of the leading abortion-rights groups that might lead someone to ask, in response to my moment of appreciation for Giffords: “Save the niceties, Kathy. What if Hitler returned to work?” But can this be the best approach? And next to an avatar of Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, as this particular Tweeter uses?
Read the rest.... http://www.ncregister.com/daily-news/aborting-charity/#ixzz1UgP3tIWt

I am happy to see that Gabrielle Giffords seems to have recovered well beyond any status I could have imagined.  I don't have to agree with her political views to appreciate the extraordiary hurdle she has juuped by the will of God. I will continue to pray that she will someday be graced with the understanding that all human life, born and unborn, is precious. 


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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Bloggers and Church should learn from each other...




"the Church has something to learn from bloggers"

Those are the words of Archbishop Claudio Maria Celli, President of the Pontifical Council for Social Communications in an interview in the latest issue of L'Osservatore Romano online. 

As a blogger I appreciate this while at the same time feeling that there is so much more that the Church and bloggers can learn from each other.

Asked if interaction with bloggers could make communications in Vatican dicasteries more effective...

"I am absolutely convinced of this. On blogs there is open communication with up-to-date language. We still experience difficulty due to a certain type of ecclesial language that young people find hard to understand. Blogs are sites of authenticity and, at the same time, of provocation..."


There is a ring of truth to Catholic blogs and these two poles, if you can call them that.  Provocation can be negative, such as when someone offers authentic teaching, but puts it out there like a clanging cymbal or noisy going.  Bloggers must practice virtue, and before it can be practiced, it must be understood as it applies today. 

There can be positive forms of provocation, such as when something in popular culture is challenged as being contrary to the Gospel or Church teaching,  such as abortion, contraception, and co-habitation.  Also in a positive way, bloggers can provoke readers to think about the virtues and how they apply to life today. 

Is there something "the Vatican" can help bloggers with?

Yes.

Continue to analyze the writings of bloggers and offer a continuous flow of encouragement to conform our evangelization and enthusiasm online to the Gospel.  It is not just what we offer in social media that matters, but how we offer it.  Do not confuse this with avoiding controversial topics. Controversial topics can be discussed, but the way we discuss these things should always be sharpened with the 10 Commandments and the virtues. 

I don't think it is enough to avoid grave matter online like detraction and calumny.  Similarly, I think few have a solid understanding of rash judgment (see all three of these in the CCC on the 8th Commandment).

I believe that we must also strive for perfection by learning about the virtues and how they apply to our online activities.  We need to talk about them to help others to see these things. 

These are not things that any of us can learn overnight.  It is a life long process.  It must be supported by a sound Sacramental life, with Sacramental Confession being a part of that process.  When we recognize that we have crossed some line - be it grave matter, or a matter of virtue, many graces can come to a blogger from the use of Confession, especially if you have access to a very virtuous priest. 

Virtue ought not be confused with orthodoxy.  One can be very orthodox in their undertanding of the faith, and have intimate knowledge of Church documents, Sacred Scripture, the writings of the Church Fathers and Doctors, and be entirely unvirtuous.   For example, we might be tempted to follow the example of popular pundits online who use a form of humor that crosses into mocking and ridicule.  What do the saints have to say about such things?  This we need to learn, and we should never dismiss their teachings as not relevant for today, or for the web.  Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Heb 13:8).  We just need to apply those timeless teachings to social media.

I recommend Archbishop Vigneron's, "10 Rules for Handling Disagreement Like a Christian" as just one example of the kind of thing bloggers and others in social media could use help with from "the Vatican". 

There is really much more to say about all of this and it is worth a post series, so ... I will save it or another time.  After more than five years of blogging, many experiences have altered my approach.

For now, what comes to your mind about virtuous blogging? Let's keep specific names and organizations out of the discussion and keep it to general principles. 


Veil-tip: Catholic Culture

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Sunday, June 19, 2011

On Fr. Corapi: What if Christ had quit because of injustice?

"Ecce Homo" by Antonio Ciseri, 1871


UPDATE JUNE 6, 2011 @7:05am | On July 5, 2011, Fr. Corapi's Superior, Fr. Gerry Sheehan issued another statement concerning his case.  Please see my post: SOLT superior responds to Corapi's "false statements and characterizations"

UDPDATE JUNE 19, 2011 @10:30PM | Folks, the National Catholic Register has a statement from Father Corapi's superiors. I am more disheartened than ever at what I am reading. I see several problems, but I simply do not have the time to offer anything right now, and it is way past my bed time. It may be days before I can get back to it. Let me just say this: In the old days, and even in some quarters today, men give up their good names, reputations and lives before their Roman collars. This case is an example of how when the going gets tough, the tough simply create confidentiality agreements, then sue people if they issue a complaint, and tie the hands of superiors trying to get to investigate to find the truth.   There are so many worldly things coming to light in this case, and unfortunately, I'm afraid they may go right over the heads of too many people.  I'll offer more another time, perhaps later in the week, but the schedule is very tight.  I stand by what is in my post below for general purposes and much of it is still applicable.



With regards to the latest development in the case of Father John Corapi, I was going to refrain from any comment until there was some reaction out of the Diocese of Corpus Christi or the Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity.  That was because I found the video theme, imagery, and certain arguments put forth odd enough to consider the possibility that Father Corapi's site had been hacked after it was suggested to me by a priest.  [see audio in video form here | transcript of text here]. This post is made with the assumption that it is authentic, and if it later proves to be a hoax, then the general principles laid out here, ought still to be of some benefit for reflection.  I hope to read some thoughts after you read what I present, most especially from priests.

I will refer to him as "Father" in this post because while he can quit acting as a priest he cannot remove the mark of the priesthood on his soul that will be with him for eternity (ccc 1583).  When the Church declares or affirms him laicized, I will then change how I refer to him.

I have been reading, and discussing the case with people as they learn of the situation.  In person, and online, among those who respected him for his solid preaching, whether they like his style or not, reaction has varied.  Some are dismayed, disturbed, and indignant; others are angry with the bishops feeling he had no choice. 

First, let me say that I too feel there is injustice in how certain cases are handled.  It also seems that the bishops are unwilling to subject themselves to the same fate should similar accusations come forth.   Father Dwight Longenecker gives some sad examples from Philadelphia in his post on this subject, and I was drawn into his post to offer a comment.  Here, I am repeating that comment, editing it with additional quotes, thoughts and comments, expanding on it, if you will.

I can't possibly know what it is like for an innocent priest to wait for that false accusation to come, or to be accused, causing him to loose his faculties, to be suspended from public ministry, to be scorned and humiliated in such a way.  But Christ does know.

Father Corapi's Third Option

I don't know if Father Corapi is guilty of the things he is accused of.  That's not even the point of this post.

Father Corapi said he had only two options.  I believe he had a third option: Imitate Christ who suffered the greatest injustice known to mankind, at our own hands, in silence. 

It's true that Father Corapi is not St. Pio.  Many are bringing up the great Italian Capuchin as a role model for priests who are unjustly accused because of what he suffered.  No two people are alike.  We may not all receive the same graces.  That is not in our control, but acting on graces, and practicing virtue is within our control.  Only God knows the fullness of truth here, so I want to shift and examine what some of the saints have to offer in the area of unjust accusations, persecutions from within, and more.

But is the experience of "yesterday's saint" relevant today?

We should never look at the saints of yesterday as not relevant for today. There are many more saints who have entered heaven, than are recorded.  Why then, do we know of some, and not others.  If we weren't meant to use them as role models, why bother going through a canonization process? It does not change their status, but it puts a spotlight on them for us to reference. The circumstances may change, but the principles do not because they are rooted in Jesus Christ who is the Way, the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6).


St. Pio of Pietrelcina

In the book Padre Pio: The True Story by Bernard Ruffin, he recounts that after Vespers on June 11, 1931, Padre Raffaele summoned Pio to the friary parlor to read the decree received, without comment:
"Padre Pio is to be stripped of all faculties of his priestly ministry except the faculty to celebrate the Holy Mass, which he may continue to do provided it is done in private, within the walls of the friary, in the inner chapel, and not publicy in church".

The saint's response:

"God's will be done,"...then he covered his eyes with his hands, lowered his head, and murmured, "The will of the authorities is the will of God."

Following the will of God, right to the Cross

That is the point. The will of God for a priest will come through his bishop and/or religious order/community superiors. It's easy to see that an assignment a priest gets to a parish from his bishop is the will of God.  He might be happy there.  But his next assignment may be as a chaplain at a hospital or university, or at a desk in the chancery, and he may not desire this.  Saying, "yes" in such a case, is taking up one's cross.  For a Carmelite monk in a monastery who may desire to work outside in the garden, and may have a talent for doing so, it may be the will of God for him to work in the kitchen or laundry room.  Such a monk who has grown with grace and reached a certain level of spiritual maturity understands that the suffering he endures by having to do one thing, when he wants to do another, is a form of redemptive suffering, which is pleasing to God when done meekly and without complaint.  (Col. 1:24)  Anyone discerning a vocation needs to understand this point.  You are giving up your life to God, and His will for you, will come through those put over you, imperfect as they may be.

Father Corapi certainly has a gift in preaching.  But as a priest, especially a  priest in a Society of Apostolic Life, he does not get to make the call on where he is assigned, and what he does.  There are many priests, religious, and even lay people who have talents for doing certain things, but circumstances hinder them.  God can open doors, and he can shut them.  God shut the door on Father Corapi's preaching when he was put on administrative leave.  When the matter is out of our control, it is all but certain that God is permitting the thing to happen.  It's our response to the thing that God is looking for.

Opportunities for redemptive suffering can come for a priest in the form of persecution and injustices.  We have Christians in the Middle East, in Asia, in Africa, and other parts of the world suffering in ways that we cannot imagine, often by the hand of governments, or the people next door. We can easily see the connection between this suffering and the imitation of Christ on the Cross.

Other persecutions and injustices include those that can come from within the Church. That these happen, should not be a surprise.  Reading the lives of many saints, we see this over and again, that among the trials they suffered, came at the hands of those who were suppose to be at their side.  The very people who should have held them up, were pushing them down.  But did not Christ suffer similarly?

While Satan can be an instigator, or even drive that bus, more often than not, what is involved is human imperfections.  Also, God could be drawing straight with someone else's crooked lines, using them as an instrument to give us an opportunity to practice some virtue, or to offer up some sacrfice.  Saint Teresa of Avila said, "I'm sick and tired of those people who go about saying: 'The devil, the devil, the devil,' when instead they should be saying 'God, God, God'. I fear these kinds of persons more than the devil himself." (ST. TERESA OF AVILA,Vol. I; p. 13 and p. 170).  The very bishops that some look upon as "the enemy" may make errors of judgment, accept misguided advice, or take an imprudent path, more than to willfully engage in wicked behavior.

Think about a pearl, which is created by friction within the shell of a clam.  In a  like manner, God permits people in our lives to "rub us the wrong way", to hurt us - physically and emotionally, to misunderstand us, to humiliate us, and even to end our lives.  Not only do these serve as opportunities for redemptive suffering, but the friction serves to shape our souls into perfection like that beautiful pearl.   Saint Lawrence, who was literally being executed by roasting, told his executioners to turn him over, "this side is done". Even as he died a horrific and painful death, he practiced virtue. Perhaps his example at such a time won a few souls over to Christ.

God will often permit this kind of trial and persecution of priests from within the Church - by both the good and virtuous  (i.e., misunderstandings, imprudence, poor judgment), or through the wicked (false accusations, envy, revenge).  The reasons for such things are known only to Him. However, as we see in such cases as St. Pio, one's response to persecution from within can prove out heroic virtue.   St. John of the Cross prayed to be despised and suffered immensly from persecution from within.  Why would he do this, if not for a desire to follow Christ in his Passion?

Next to accepting with docility a physical martyrdom, there can be no greater imitation of Christ for an innocent priest who is falsely accused than to accept with docility a fate that comes to him through those put over him by God, even if it involves an unjust system. God coulld easily remove this obstacle, if and when, He so willed because He is God.

I believe that there is a serious deficiency in our understanding of the spiritual life, most especially, the virtues and how the Cross comes in to play. It's not sufficient for us to know the facts of the faith well. We have to practice virtue, and we must practice it "in season and out of season".  Virtue doesn't wait. Not acting on opportunities - big and small - to practice it weakens a soul's response to temptations. Our priests are under tremendous strain with the shortage today, but not greater than what the priests of yesterday experienced. Bishop Athanasius Schneider, who saw a priest with scarcity in his youth due to conditions in the former USSR, can attest to that. I believe that priests and lay people back in those days had the benefit of understanding the importance of practicing the virtues more intimately, and the role of the Cross in our daily life. (Luke 9:23) This needs to be recaptured to stem this loss of good men who are yielding in various ways.

St. Pio's postulator - Father Florio Tessari, in an inteview in L'Osservatore Romano had this to say about him (Catholic News Agency, June 2009):

Padre Pio was “a friar, a religious priest who profoundly observed the evangelical counsels (poverty, chastity and obedience) in his life. He suffered difficulties in silence like an authentic Cyrenean and at the same time was crucified without a cross..."
He went on to point to two fundamental elements that led to Padre Pio’s canonization: “Faith to the bitter end and obedience also to the bitter end, despite the difficulties he encountered in his life..."


One more quote from St. Pio is worth meditating on.  It comes from the same book by Bernard Ruffin.  He talks about a visit made by his friend and former teacher, Padre Agostino.  The priest said that Pio did not complain or make objections, especially in a public way.  Agostino asked him how he passed his time.  The saint responded:

"I pray and I study as much as I can, and then I annoy my Brothers."

He went on to elaborate on that last part, that he jokes with his brothers. In other words, he fully accepted God's will for him, not stewing in the injustice that had befallen him.

The Simplicity and Docility of St. Dominic Savio

St. Dominic Savio, a patron saint of the falsely accused was faulted in school for a prank he did not commit and was punished for it after he did not protest his innocence. He chose a path of docility and silence. Later, when the teacher, Father Cugliero discovered he didn't do it, he asked Savio why he didn't defend himself. St. Dominic said:

"I thought of our Lord when He was unjustly accused. He didn't say a word either."



Bottom Line: That persecution of innocent clerics and lay people happens is nothing new in the history of the  Church, including that which comes from within. What is most important is one's response to that persecution. Grace always leads us to imitate Christ, who was obedient unto death, death on a Cross (Phil 2:8).

What if Our Lord Jesus Christ had not been silent, protested his innocence, and "quit" because he was falsely accused and suffered injustice at the hands of the imperfect men God had put over him?

Several times in this post I have used the word, "docility".  What does this mean in the spiritual life? Let's look at what Fr. John A. Hardon, SJ has to say.  Yesterday, June 18, marked not only the day of his birth, but of his priestly ordination.  He remarks in an article on virtues concerning "Childlikeness" about docility thus:

It means therefore to be willing to learn from God and here’s the hard one: the willingness to learn from God not of course as though God will, though of course He might, send us His own divine angelic messenger, normally not. Normally God teaches us through the circumstances of our daily lives. Especially those most painful circumstances called other people. That’s where we tend to be less than docile. Openness then to God’s teaching us especially through all whom He places into our lives. It is great, great wisdom to be so disposed as to be ready to learn from and I mean it, everyone from the youngest child to the oldest speaking to religious golden or diamond jubilarian .

Defending oursleves against untruths and injustices - St. Francis de Dales

A lamb, even as it is led to slaughter, is docile, unlike a pig which kicks and squeals to the bitter end.  And, so must we be when we are led to the kind of emotional slaughter that comes with injustice and false accusations.  Does this mean we ought never defend ourselves? See the answer below as St. Francis de Sales quotes St. Gregory on this point.

When any evil befalls you, apply the remedies that may be in your power, agreeably to the will of God; for to act otherwise would be to tempt divine Providence Having done this, wait with resignation for the success it may please God to send; and, should the remedies overcome the evil, return Him thanks with humility, but if, on the contrary, the evils overcome the remedies, bless Him with patience.
"The following advice of St. Gregory is useful: whenever you are 'justly accused' of a fault, humble yourself, and candidly confess that you deserve more than the accusation which is brought against you; but, if the charge be false, excuse yourself meekly, denying your guilt, for you owe this respect to truth, and to the edification of your neighbor. But if, after your true and lawful excuse, they should continue to accuse you, trouble not yourself nor strive to have your excuse admitted; for, having discharged your duty to truth, you must also do the same to humility, by which means you neither offend against the care you ought to have of your reputation, nor the love you owe to peace, meekness of heart, and humility."


On Father Corapi

A  priest should always lead us to Christ.  If we find ourselves being led to the man, rather than to He whom the priest must always lead us, then it is time to remedy the attachment. 

In closing this post, I can only encourage you to pray and offer sacrifices up for Father Corapi, and for those who have developed a deep attachment to him.

We do not know his status, not until it is reported to us by the Church.  Some believe that he is doing this to help other priests who may be innocent victims of a flawed process. Pope John Paul II, in Veritatis Splendor (75) condemned consequentialism.  The end (fixing a process most of us feel is broken), does not justify the means (of breaking a promise he made when he put his hands into the hands of Pope John Paul II upon his ordination to the priesthood 20 years ago).

The mark of the priesthood is ever in the cross-hairs of the Angel of Darkness.  If he can get one priest to fall in some way, he knows very well how to use that attachment some have developmed to "the man" to win dozens, hundreds, or many thousands of others.

The Church is perfect, and Christ promised that the Gates of Hell would not prevail against it.  But, he also established a hierarchy made up of men - men who are no less prone to the effects of Original Sin as the rest of us.  He knew some would lead with heroic virtue unto martyrdom, others would die to self in white martyrdom, and still others would do a great deal of time in purgatory, or earn their way into Hell for eternity.  Thank God, that judgment is up to He who knows the fullness of truth, and any mitigating circumstances even a guilty cleric may have.  We, for our part, should pray for their sanctity, do reparation for our sins and theirs, and beg for mercy for all mindful of our own sinfulness.

If you want to do something useful, go to an Adoration chapel and pray, and do so regularly for priests and bishops. 

Got thoughts?

I'm interested in hearing from you on this, most especially priests.  Also, if you have any examples of other saints who suffered persecution from within the Church, drop a mention in the combox.  Provide links or citations, where possible.



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Saturday, January 30, 2010

Pope John Paul II's mortification practices and the secular world's twist

Jimmy Akin has a great post up at the National Catholic Register blog in which he looks at how the secular world reacted to the news that Pope John Paul II use to self-flagellate - a form of mortification of the flesh.  No...it's not masochism. 

Go read Jimmy Akin's blogpost: STUNNER! Pope practiced self-mortification

Also scroll to the Catholic section at this wikipedia entry to read about self-mortification among the saints.

Homepage for the NC Register for other blogposts and articles.


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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Fr. Perrone on Humility, Modesty and Pride

Grotto's pastor, in a very thought-provoking sermon at the 9:30am extraordinary form Mass, talked about humility, modest, and pride. Here is the sermon of Fr. Eduard Perrone for the 10th Sunday after Pentecost, 2009 (extraordinary form). The Gospel was Luke 18:9-14.



This Gospel tale of the two men praying may have met some particular need at the time it was spoken. Indeed, the Old Testament Law made much of one’s being righteous according to his works, which could then become the occasion of pride over one’s successes. The parable is a striking lesson in humility, in dependence upon the grace of God for justification (although goods works are necessary as well), and in having a sincere contrition for one’s sins.

When we were young, we did not use the word ‘humility’. I suppose this was because it was too big a word for youngsters. But we did use another word for it, a good word which is telling, expressive of a wider, more comprehensive virtue. We called it modesty. If someone didn’t praise himself, talk about himself or his deeds, we used to say that he was ‘modest,’ rather than humble. This word modest recognizes a fundamental disorder that we have ‘naturally’ (that is, in our fallen condition) whereby we have impulses, drives towards self-assertion and self-promotion that manifest themselves in a variety of ways: a cocky attitude, the lewd flaunting of one’s body, those all-too easily hurt or angry feelings, self-reliance, thinking oneself to be ‘special’ in some way or deserving of preferential treatment over others due either to some personal gifts or to some entitlement on account of lacking them.

There is a certain elusiveness about this virtue that makes it hard to grasp it and difficult to analyze. Speaking of it too much is already dangerously near to transgressing it. Examining it too closely is like the attempt of peeling away the petals of a rose to investigate the cause of its beauty: the thing’s destroyed in the process. Yet for all its fragility, humility is a tough virtue. It can only be found in the spiritually advanced. It’s not a virtue of the beginner, but rather of the proficient.

Humility is among the most difficult things to sermonize about. I want today to make some remarks about the ways humility (or its opposite) manifests itself rather than to attempt an analytical treatment about it.

One of the signs of a humble person is his readiness to learn from others. Without humility, one can’t learn a thing from someone else. Another sign is his admission of what he owes to others for what he has accomplished or achieved. These indicators point to the dictum that ‘humility is truth.’ It is not so much how low a man bends or appears obsequious in his conduct (that could be mere artifice) that shows humility. A meditation on the fact that we come into this world as nobodies and that we leave it bereft of all the ‘props’ of position, possessions and persons ought to lead us to pursue real humility.

Another thing that should occur to anyone who puts his mind to this subject is the fact that, no matter how things may appear, there is at least one good quality in anybody else but me that I lack or that exceeds the same in me. Although there are people who are highly gifted in many ways and others of seemingly few talents, yet there is a certain leveling in the sense that God apportions His gifts unequally, in such a way that no one has it all and that anybody may have some good thing that I lack, at least somewhat. Of course, this realization can make one envious–a kind of insecurity, as they say–which manifests pride. Being grateful to God not only for what I have but also for what He has given others that I lack is a spiritually healthy and humble outlook.

The best definition of humility I was ever told was this: humility is ordinariness. At first hearing, this is a shocker–first, because we often think that humility is a kind of shyness (again, that modesty I spoke of) and second because we are always bid to excel, to be discontented with ourselves, to achieve any heights of success that ambition may propose to us (which is surely a false and frustrating aspiration). This ‘ordinariness,’ the endeavor to be ‘just like everybody else’ does not mean to imitate some low common standard of goodness or under-achievement. It means rather that we ought not to try to appear better or greater than others but to hide ourselves and use our gifts for their God-given purposes, without any display of self-aggrandizement. This goal is not inconsistent with what our Lord commanded when He said that we should ‘let our light so shine before men that they may see our good works.’ This kind of showing-off (so to speak) is for God to get the credit and not ourselves: a completely different motivation and effect of our actions.

A sure measure of knowing how lacking in humility we are is our reaction the moment we are opposed or criticized. If the response is either anger at the insult, or it’s alternative, hurt feelings, we know that pride, self-love, has been wounded. Although there are challenging and sometimes embarrassing moments we may have to face, these can be of great profit if we accept them as opportunities to grow in humility and self-control, and to exercise that toughness of spirit we call fortitude.

One final thing concerns something our Lord once said. He never pointed to any miracles of His and bid us to imitate them (which we could never do in any case), but He did say that we should learn from Him who is meek and humble of heart. The Sacred Heart of Jesus, the Heart of God, is surrounded by the thorns of humiliation, scorn and ridicule. What a lesson that is in humility!

Who, looking at the Sacred Heart of Jesus, can have a motive for being proud or for making any complaint for being unappreciated?

If any priests are reading, please know that we need to hear this kind of stuff from our pulpits.

N.B.: If you are in metro Detroit, be sure to come to Assumption Grotto on Assumption Day - August 15th, 2009. Archbishop Vigneron will have the evening 7:00pm Mass.

Check out the Call to Holiness Conference (October 10, 2009 in metro Detroit - includes Bishop Athanasius Schneider, ORC- author of Dominus Est)

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Sunday, April 27, 2008

Virtuous Catholic Blogger Update...

I am going to use this blogpost repeatedly by shifting the date, each time I update the Virtuous Catholic Blogging site. I'll create a running list in this blogpost and it will be updated in chronological order - so look to the bottom for the latest.

I am hoping for participation there. I did not create the blog because I am virtuous. Rather, I created the blog so that I may learn to become a virtuous blogger. While you may find some worthwhile things to ponder there, I hope to grow through your comments, as well.

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Thursday, April 17, 2008

Amy Welborn: Pope Benedict is a uniter, not a divider

I really enjoyed the article by Amy Welborn at the blog set up by the NY Times where she was asked, among many others, to participate. Her post mirrors some thoughts I've been having since the Holy Father's visit began ('ll add link below). I left a comment there which I'll repeat here with fixes in brackets:

One thing that strikes me repeatedly about Pope Benedict and something we would do well to emulate, is that we don’t see him publicly violate charity regardless of the severity of an issue. He is frank and calls things out as they are [in other words, he does not give in to false charity by saying nothing], but his firmness is not one that lacks charity and [he shows] care for the dignity of those to whom it is aimed.

How often do we bloggers set charity aside to get one more dig at a fellow Catholic rather than engage in dialogue with the intellectual charity of which Pope Benedict XVI encourages and exemplifies?

I’ll be pondering that myself.


I want to expand on this thought while I have it.....

When I first got serious about my faith when Pope John Paul II died, I found myself extraordinarily hungry for all things Catholic. Just to be clear, I was seeking out an understanding of the mind of the Church in her teachings, not the mind of someone who has other ideas that are more aligned with the mind of the world.

I was relativisitic in my thinking and the light bulb went on for me, realizing that truth can't be in two opposing directions, nor can truth change directions. If Christ is Truth, then truth must be absolute.

As I learned about the faith at places like Catholic.com and through solid sermons at Assumption Grotto, an anger began to increase inside of me - an anger being caused with another realization: The catechism of my youth was not only deficient, it was a distortion of authentic Catholic teaching. And, it wasn't only the catechism: The sermons I had been hearing for the past 40 years were equally deficient and sometimes distorted. I felt duped.

Just for reference, I was born in 1962.

This anger began to build, creating a defensiveness in me. In my discussions with other Catholics, I tried to "help" people to understand with all the grace of Attila the Hun.

I tried to use humor too. Usually that humor was in the form of little digs which, as I see them now, served no other purpose than to get under the skin of other people. A little humor here and there is good, but it has to be properly ordered. Has anyone ever heard Pope Benedict, or the man Ratzinger ever take this approach to passing on the faith? No. He has a level of spiritual maturty that we should all strive for. However, pride sometimes gets in the way.

If you peruse discussions in the many Catholic forums out there, and even the posts on some Catholic blogs, you will see examples of all kinds of behaviors that are not in alignment with charity - digs, bad humor, and the Attila the Hun approach to catechesis.

We Catholic bloggers must ponder the words and actions of Pope Benedict. If we are to use the web to evangelize other people - especially poorly catechized Catholics and interested non-Catholics, we have to let go of the anger and let love for neighbor backfill that void. When our words are guided by love, the Holy Spirit will lead us in our quest to help others. Early on, several priests at Assumption Grotto encouraged me in this way with regards to discussions. It has taken much time to learn, and I continue to learn and make adjustments.

When we engage in discussions with others on the faith, even on the most sensitive of subjects, we have to work on the charity side of it. An examination of conscience needs to be done regularly in this regard. Bloggers would do well to make use of confession when they realize charity was violated. A good confessor, along with the graces of the sacrament, can go a long way into enabling God to fine tune us like strings on a violin. There is nothing sweeter than a well-tuned instrument and nothing more grand than an entire ensemble of well-tuned instruments in aiding others to see the beauty of our faith.

We can't make anyone play the 10-stringed harp; we must lead them to want to play it!

Now......go read Amy Welborns excellent article: A Uniter, Not a Divider

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Monday, March 10, 2008

Television and Virtue - Or lack thereof.....

Some time ago, I began to shun prime-time TV only to discover when I would later attempt to relax and watch one of my old time favorites, that it was not a God-pleasing use of my time. In fact, I can't say I know of a sitcom or drama on prime-time television that isn't God-displeasing in it's promotion of anything but Christian virtue. Most reality programs, outside of those I've seen, for example on the food network, are terribly immoral.

Nearly two years ago, I completely stopped watching those programs because even the best crime shows (you know, the good guy stuff) were based on highly disordered behaviors in criminals - the kind of things I would be better off not knowing about. Most of these programs are permissive to, and even justify SSA and other things contrary to natural law, and God's law.

This says nothing of placing ourselves in the near occasion of sin. It is sinful to willfully place yourself in a position of temptation. What else but lustful thoughts can come from watching any program where cleavage rules and body parts which typically attract the opposite sex, are highlighted in skin-tight clothing?

I am amazed that Catholics or Christians of any denomination can justify watching programs like Desperate Housewives, or Sex in the City. How many people watching these programs consider whether the things they enjoy project values that offend the Ten Commandments? Then again, in today's relativistic society, they are merely trampled on as the "Ten Suggestions".

I don't sit and watch TV because I don't have time. Rather, when it is on, I am mainly listening to it as I work. This means, EWTN gets much of my attention. Alternatively, the cooking channel gets my attention, as well.

We must always ask ourselves: If something is not bad, is it necessarily good?

In other words, too much of something good can result in something bad, such as lack of moderation. Do we spend 2 hours daily watching TV and only 15 minutes in prayer, or merely go to Mass on Sunday with no daily prayer? A good test is to count the hours you spend on TV or even the Internet in a week, on average, and compare that to the amount of time you give God in prayer.

With this time away from TV, what does one do when winding down at night?

The answer: Set aside the remote and spend some time reading a good Catholic book. OK, so you did it for Lent, but what prevents you from keeping the habit up year-round?

The biographies and writings of any saint are great for nighttime reading and lessons will work on you through the night, doing the opposite of what worldly programs will do. Such reading keeps us out of the near occasion of sin, and propels us into virtuous living.

This is how I decided to read the 1954 book, Dominic Savio - Teenage Saint, upon which my "9 Days with Dominic Savio" blog post series was initiated.

A few suggestions - mainly lives of saints, the blessed and venerable, many of which you can get at the Assumption Grotto Gift shop. Otherwise, follow the links below....








And, for young readers:






Always good reading for parents!!!








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Friday, January 18, 2008

On Gluttony

Perhaps I can get back into regular posting soon. It has been difficult time-wise, but I am slowly getting back into the swing of things.

While watching Raymond Arroyo's, World Over Live on EWTN (and preparing for tomorrow's slow-cooker dinner, and washing clothes), I was led to a website with an interesting quote. I don't want to reveal who wrote it or when. Just read it and I'll reveal the author at the end.....


Gluttony

If there is any indication of the present degeneration of society better than another, it is the excess of luxury in the modern world. When men forget their souls, they begin to take great care of their bodies. There are more athletic clubs in the modern world than there are spiritual retreat houses; and who shall count the millions spent in beauty shops to glorify faces that will one day be the prey of worms?

It is not particularly difficult to find thousands who will spend three or four hours a day in exercising, but if you ask them to bend their knees to God in five minutes of prayer, they protest that it is too long. Added to this is the shocking amount that is yearly spent, not in the normal pleasure of drinking, but in its excess.

The scandal increases when one considers the necessary wants of the poor which could have been supplied by the amount spent for such dehumanization. The divine judgement upon Dives is bound to be repeated upon many of our generation, who will find that the beggars for whose service they refused to interrupt their luxuries will be seated at the banquet of the King of Kings, while they, like Dives, will be beggars for but a drop of water.

Some reparation had to be made for gluttony, drunkenness and excessive luxury. That reparation began at the birth of our Lord, when He who might have pulled down the heavens for His houstop and the stars for His chandeliers, chose to be rejected by men and driven as an outcast in the hillsides of the least of the cities of Israel.


Who wrote this?

Bishop Fulton J. Sheen.

Go check out the interesting website set up for his cause for beatification & canonization. Fr. Andrew Apostoli, CFR, often seen on EWTN, is the Vice-Postulator. He was ordained by Bishop Sheen.

ArchbishopSheenCause.org

Source page for the quote: http://archbishopsheencause.org/meditations.html

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Saturday, January 5, 2008

Video Game Addiction.....and it goes to Mass!?!?!

Many of us already know how addicted kids (and even adults) can become to video games. There is an excellent article in the Opinion Journal of the Wall Street Journal by a parent explaining just how bad it can get, and how difficult it is to break the cycle.


My wife and I aren't entirely inept parents--our 6-year-old seems fairly well-adjusted anyway. Back in October we established for the older boys strict screen-time limits. It was then that we discovered the true extent of their addiction. They ranted and raved and cursed and even threw things--almost as if demons had taken possession of them. These are classic withdrawal symptoms; they craved a fix. When we installed parental controls on the computer, our boys scoffed. It took them about 15 minutes to disable them. We've become so desperate that we may have to get rid of the computers entirely, though that may hamper their school work.


Something jumped out at me in the article. I have actually seen - not at Grotto, but at "St. Suburbia", kids with Gameboys at Mass. The author discusses this, as well.


It turns out that we're not alone in our predicament. A parent down the street confided to us that his 12-year-old son was so obsessed with video games that he wouldn't take even a three-minute break from gaming to go to the bathroom--with unfortunate results. The other day we saw a kid at church, in a semi-trance, going down the aisle to Holy Communion while clicking on a hand-held Game Boy. Talk about worshiping a false god.

Fr. Perrone has written on these kinds of topics in his column. If you spend any time at Grotto you will soon learn that all of the priests preach frequently on the need for moderation, even in good things. We can become addicted to almost anything. A hobbyist can spend so much time on a hobby that family and relationship with God are hindered. An athlete can join so many leagues that he has no time for his kids (or lead in divorce, which I have seen after one man was on 3 or 4 different baseball leagues and even let it interfere with finding a job). Someone can become so obsessed with fashion and shopping that more important bills don't get paid and the family goes into debt.

Moderation goes hand-in-hand with mortification of the apetites. Those apetites can be anything. If they aren't controlled by us, they end up being in control, which is the essence of addiction. It's in taming the little things, that we learn to tame the bigger things. Grotto priests have often encouraged us to make small sacrifices on a daily basis and offer those up. It could be saying "no" to a piece of chocolate just as you are craving it and reaching for it. It could be sacrificing time in front of the television to go visit a sick relative. There are so many opportunities to practice if we are willing to see them.

If we let the tail wag the dog with ourselves, how then can we expect the children around us to learn how to wag the tail? Parents especially have to set examples and talk about mortification and how it can be used like prayer when the pain of not having something at a given moment becomes perfect as an offering to God for some great cause. Perhaps a child could offer up that sacrifice of not playing a video game for a poor child in some other part of the world whose only toy is a carton of some kind. My point is that this is not only for the priests to teach. The fact that an entire generation of kids could get so out of control shows that the culture does not encourage mortification, nor do our churches.

Shows like "The Nanny" have become popular among young parents, struggling with out of control kids and in the end, it is always predictable. It's about making tough choices for your kids and learning to weather the temper-tantrums. The parent whose child can't fall asleep unless Mom is in the room, has created a situation in which the tail wag's the dog. The child is not in control of himself, but his emotions and wants are controlling him. "The Nanny" shows how to break the cycle, and it is painful for the parents.

I'm not married; I have no kids and you can tell me that I don't understand, as I've been told so many times before by parents when I've mentioned this: Parents are afraid to parent their children.

I wonder if the boys discussed in the article have regular, daily or weekly chores. If they did, they would have less time for video games and learn critical life-skills, like how to wash a load of laundry so Mom isn't still doing it for them in their twenties.

Letting "wants" control us is not just a problem with kids. It's a problem with all of us and even priests have become afraid to discuss it. There was a time when Catholics heard this from the pulpit regularly, as we do at Grotto. I recall nearly falling from my pew during sermons for months after coming to Grotto (half from knowing the priest was hitting home with reality and the other from trying to contain my laughter at just how true his words were).

Some feel it is bad on the self-esteem. Those are the people who walk out thinking the priest was negative (and probably have the greatest problem controlling a single child). However, we need our priests to be more concerned with the salvation of our souls, than with preserving our self-esteem. I pray for the day when you can walk in any Catholic Church and expect to hear the priest explain the importance of virtue and mortification. Save the self-esteem speech for those in hell because they're the ones who will need it. True self-esteem is built through virtue and mortification.

Lack of moderation comes in many forms, but I must say that the video game craze, be it on TV, computer or handheld, is one of the most visible among youth today. I would encourage you to read the entire article: Teenage Zombies


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Thursday, November 15, 2007

Fr. John A. Hardon on Detraction

It would seem helpful in light of discussion surrounding Fr. Benedict Groeschel's admonishment to not engage in detraction on blogs, to share more on this grave matter by another humble priest: Fr. John A. Hardon, SJ. Fr. Hardon goes in depth on the catechesis of this issue.

I'll start you out here, but please read the entire section at the site where this is stored.


Commandments of God - Detraction and Calumny
by Fr. John A. Hardon, S.J.

The immediate focus of the Eighth Commandment is falsehood that does injury to one's neighbor. Harm to another person's reputation, therefore, is the special prohibition of this divine mandate.

A person's reputation may be injured in various ways, notably by detraction and calumny or slander. Detraction is the unjust violation of the good reputation of another by revealing something true about him. Calumny or slander differs from detraction in that what is said or imputed about a person is not true.

A good reputation is the esteem that one person has formed and entertains about another. It may regard his moral qualities, such as honesty, chastity, or truthfulness; it may regard physical and mental qualities or attainments. In either case, reputation is the object of an acquired right, and consequently to take it away or lower it becomes an act of injustice. Not only the living but also the dead have a right to good esteem. During life we wish to remain in the grateful memory of mankind, and such an expectation can lead us to great exploits.

What needs to be stressed, however, is that a person's good name is something he cherishes even though we may not think he deserves it. No matter; it is his good name, not ours. We may, if we wish, forfeit our good name provided no harm is done to others. But another person's good reputation belongs to him, and we may not do it injury by revealing, without proportionately grave reason, what we know is true about him.

Detraction is consequently a sin against justice because it deprives a man or woman of what they ordinarily value more than riches. Socrates' statement that the way to gain a good reputation is to endeavour to be what you desire to appear highlights the effort required to acquire a good name. All of this, more even than accumulated wealth, can be destroyed by a single criminal act of detraction.

The seriousness of the sin committed will mainly derive from the gravity of the fault or limitation disclosed. But it will also depend on the dignity of the person detracted and the harm done to him and others by revealing something that is hidden and whose disclosure lowers (if it does not ruin) his standing in the public eye.

Not unlike the restitution called for in stealing, detraction demands reparation as far as possible to the injured person's reputation. Often such reparation is next to impossible to make, either because of the number of people informed or the complexity of the situation. But this merely emphasizes the warning of Scripture to "Be careful of your reputation, for it will last you longer than a thousand hoards of gold. A good life lasts a certain number of days, but a good reputation lasts forever" (Si. 41:12-16).

The essence of detraction is the unwarranted disclosure of a hidden failing, which implies that there are occasions when the disclosure can and even should be made.

When the revelation of another person's fault is necessary or very useful, as in defense of self or of others, no injustice is done in revealing it. This would be the case when the failing or defect is made known to parents, or superiors, or for the purpose of seeking counsel or help, or to prevent harm to others, though again, there must be adequate proportion between the lessening of a person's reputation (which is not intended) and the good to be achieved by the disclosure (which is intended). This would cover such contingencies as anticipating unjust harm to oneself in the law courts, or even seeking consolation of a trusted friend by revealing the injustice done.
Go read the full section by Fr. Hardon at the Real Presence website

Fr. Hardon's Library moves from Assumption Grotto to St. Louis as his cause is investigated


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Wednesday, October 17, 2007

The Grotto Effect: Part 1 - "The Free Bench"

Many who land at Assumption Grotto after having spent life like a ship on the high-seas, tossed to-and-fro, in a relativistic, materialistic world eventually experience a reordering of priorities.

While I would like to call this "The Grotto Effect", I can assure you that there are many things which make this up, so why focus on only one. On top of my already incomplete series on Grotto Altar Boys, Kneeling for Holy Communion, the Romano Guardini series on "Sacred Signs", and a not yet started series on the Blessed Mother, I now add this one. Not to worry about the incomplete series - there is a lifetime for it all and I will get them started again, perhaps when things slow down at Grotto (as if that will ever happen). I'm hardly ever home anymore - another Grotto Effect!

THE FREE BENCH

When I first started coming to Grotto in May of 2005, I had come off of a 4-month long medical with an odd asthma attack, which - in the end, proved to be a grace which led to my turing more seriously toward's the Lord.

For several months, I had been assisting at Fr. Perrone's 7:30am Mass, which was being held outdoors since it was still summer. After Mass, and as I walked back toward's my car to go to work, I asked one woman whom I had noticed always there at Grotto, if I could possibly bring in some things I needed to get rid of, but didn't want to throw out.

The woman stopped walking, turned to me and said, "It's happening isn't it?"

I said, "What?"

She said, "Now, don't you worry, it happens to just about everybody who comes here."

I said, "What???"

The woman said, "Look, for me it was my precious doll collection. I had so many dolls you wouldn't believe it. I got rid of all them - all except one or two. You know, you just find that all those things that meant something, don't mean anything at all and they get in the way".

I just erupted in laughter and said that about sums it up.

Very casually, she told me to bring my things in and put them in on the "free bench", which some places would call a "free box" - a place where you can put things you don't want any longer so others may have them. I hadn't noticed until then, that just inside the doors of the school on the church benches in the hall, are periodically laid out clothes and material goods. No questions asked on where they came from, but there for the taking by anyone wanting or needing them.

Mortification, Detachment, and Simplicty of Life
The Free Bench is a great solution in a parish which enables shedding of a materialistic lifestyle. It is a grace from God. And, those things we have accumulated, that are simply excesses, are welcomed by the many Grotto families who are humble enough to receive them. Many moms, including some that are very well educated and skilled, have chosen to stay out of the workforce to homeschool and they get by in simple homes on tight budgets. Keeping in mind that the parish is located in a poor section of Detroit, the goods are also welcomed to those in our parish who are truly poor, or who are trying to learn to live in a spirit of poverty.

In fact, it is in witnessing the sacrifices made by homeschooling families and the parish poor whom God uses innocently as instruments to teach us to re-evaluate our needs and wants. Add to that a group of priests in a parish who regularly challenge us to practice mortification of our many apetites - for spiritual exercise in taming the will, and as an offering to God for some purpose (which is welcomed by Him like prayer).

Those apetites in today's world can include things such as daily expensive gourmet coffee drinks, purchased lunches which cost more and taste better than bag lunches, electronic gadets up to wazoo, hobbies gone wild with excess, designer and name brand clothes and items (you should have seen the huge collection of Bath & Body Works stuff I had vs. ordinary cheap soap and lotions now), the biggest cars and trucks (while I didn't buy a used car when my lease expired, I did purchase rather than lease - a more economical vehicle, with intent to drive it into the ground), larger homes than are necessary, and the list goes on. Don't get me wrong as there is nothing wrong with an occasional capuccino. But if we live in a spirit of poverty, we come to realize that those who have so little money are lucky to afford budget grounds from the grocery store - something we should practice voluntarily at times for mortification. It's at these times that we literally test our attachments to "things" and ways of life.

How much house do I need?
Before I came to Grotto I knew I wanted to get out of my 1165 sq. ft. condo and into a home. Even as a single person, I felt that going after a 1700 sq. ft ranch was modest. But, the Grotto Effect cured that and I soon realized that I needed nothing much bigger than what I already have - I just need to get rid of stuff. I still want to get out of my condo (spend an evening trying to sleep next to a condo loaded with party animals and you'll know why), but I have downsized my spacey wishes. Also, by choosing to live in a smaller, simpler home, I have lower heating and cooling bills, lower taxes, and more money for.......other things caused by the Grotto Effect not yet discussed.

I am truly beginning to believe that God issues a penance for such excesses once we recognize them: He has us getting so involved at Grotto that finding time to finish sifting and reordering life based on simplicity gets difficult.

I have enough possessions to fill the Grotto school hallway, let alone the free bench. I just need the parish to slow down so I can box the stuff and transport it.

Liberation via the Free Bench
The Grotto Free Bench is not only called that because it offers free things to the takers. It is the Free Bench because it is highly liberating for those who contribute to it.

Allowing the Lord to work on your soul and shape it through a fine parish like Assumption Grotto, please know that you should never try to do too many changes at once. Allow God the time to work on you and make small, incremental changes. The Angel of Darkness loves to make us feel like giving up because we try to change too much at once. Start with one thing and when you get through that, change something else.

I highly recommend using the Sacrament of Confession provided you find a good priest who understands how effective the Sacrament can be for building virtue and shedding attachment. Confession is where holiness is built because of the humility involved. Using it to tame appetites and attachments teaches us how to use self-control with serious sins and imperfections. Don't take a litany of things into the confessional, but work through one thing over a period of time. Keep in mind, most of these attachments are not bad in themselves. Rather, it is the inordinate attachment or inability to do without that reveals something worth working on.


Have you experienced a similar effect at Grotto or another parish? Feel free to tell us about it.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007

Sacrament of Confession - A New Trend Among the Young

Deo Gratias! Fresh in from Sandro Magister at his blog:




Emerging Trends: The Return to the Confessional

The indications are modest, but consistent. The latest one comes from Loreto, where twelve thousand young people received the sacrament of forgiveness, with the pope's encouragement. And in the seminaries, there's a return of books for studying "cases of conscience"

by Sandro Magister

ROMA, September 6, 2007 – During the two-day meeting between Benedict XVI and the young people who flocked to Loreto by the hundreds of thousands from Italy and from many other countries, something happened that was unexpected in terms of its intensity and breadth: mass participation in the sacrament of confession.

Between Saturday, September 1, and Sunday, September 2, in the large open plain beneath the town and the shrine of the Virgin Mary, 350 priests heard confessions nonstop from two o'clock in the afternoon until seven in the morning, besieged by twelve thousand young people seeking forgiveness.

But even before the pope's arrival, the rite of penance had been part of the preparations for many of the young people attending the event. Almost all of the pilgrimage venues on the way to Loreto included opportunities for sacramental confession. Such was the case with the abbey in Fiastra, which at times became one giant confessional. Such was the case with the shrine of Canoscio, in the Apennine mountains. Each time, there were dozens and dozens of priests all administering the sacrament at the same time.

This was not an absolute novelty. Great numbers of young people also confessed at the World Youth Day events held in Rome in 2000: 120,000 in three days, in the immense stadium of pagan Rome, the Circus Maximus, which had been transformed into an open-air confessional.

But what seemed at first like a flash in the pan turned out to be a lasting trend. And it is a growing one, especially at shrines and at large gatherings. Of course, the percentage of young Catholics who go to confession is still small. In Loreto, they were less than five percent of those present. But a trend reversal is underway, considering that reception of the sacrament had almost died out some years ago.


Continue reading Confession at www.chiesa


Dear Father....



"...I have heard for 40 years how much God loves me. Please, teach me how to love Him back...."


Those were among the very first words I said to Fr. Perrone when I first met him in 2005 and emptied my "closet" on his desk with a general confession. Teach me he did and so did the other fine priests at Assumption Grotto, which is the key reason for my staying and joining the parish. Our human fallen nature truly needs for us to hear frequently how to show our love for God. The first thing I learned was to take the Ten Commandments seriously, and to understand them better.

My first few months at Grotto were crushing, but in a most pleasing way. It was painful to see all the ways I had offended God throughout my life, and to actually come to grips with the fact that these were choices I myself made. The "spirit of Vatican 2" outlook was to avoid pain on the premise that God wants us to be happy. We sometimes make the mistake of avoiding the very thing that is necessary in spiritual growth - to purge ourselves of that which is not God-pleasing.

The first bad choice was to remain ignorant of Church teaching, and the more serious was to blow-off those few teachings that didn't quite mesh with my outlook on life. Relativism's ugly head was revealed only by the grace of God. I had been "jarred" abruptly by then Cardinal Ratzinger's pre-conclave sermon.

All of this was painful, yet it was pleasing to experience a new beginning and a new outlook on life which would have me putting God at the center in my daily life, and not the ways of the world.

Confession is Catchy

The news reported by Sandro Magister is very promising. And, I can tell you that it get's "catchy". I discovered this when I first came to Grotto two years ago. There is something about seeing long lines of confession that draws the soul to contemplate it's own sinfulness, prompting thoughts of using the Sacrament. That makes it a grace to be in the presence of people confessing sins and one that we should act upon should we feel that draw, even where there is no serious sin.

Confession becomes even more "catchy" when you learn to use it for the purpose of building virtue. This is where priests can really help a soul on a personal level to build holiness. There can be no pursuit of holiness while we are in a state of mortal sin because it weighs a soul down like boat anchor. In reality, it is in working on the small things - the venial matters, that we learn to tame our apetites on the heavy hitters - grave or mortal sin. This was one of the key things that Fr. Perrone taught me that day. His advice as we parted following that general confession was to read one small section of My Daily Bread each day. This little book was instrumental in further purgings as the weeks and months went by. I highly recommend it as a great little read for re-tooling your soul. It breaks you down, then teaches you how to get back up with a whole new attitude.

I also discovered then, that people respond to a priest in the confessional, especially when he is persistant. So, Fathers - if you are reading this, talk about it in your sermons - just be there consistently and pray that the people come, even when it seems no one will. I witnessed Confessions on Sunday mornings because priests make it available in the 45 minutes prior to Mass. When they celebrate Mass they put a sign up indicating confessions will need to stop 10 minutes prior so they may finish vesting. Priests at my parish also have a habit of going to the confessional outside of regularly posted times when there are large numbers of people present - and people respond.

Confession: Didn't Vatican 2 do away with that?

Confession waned in the years following Vatican 2 when, in that name of that council, it was de-emphasized. I recall vividly when a Catholic friend said to me, "Confesion? Oh, Vatican 2 did away with that!". Not!

This de-emphasis from my perspective, came right along with the growing banality of sermons in which talk of things like sin, sacrifice, self-denial, justice, and mortification were labeled as "passe".

Banal Sermons Contributed to the Decline of Confession

Sermons of the last 40 years have done much to teach us about how much God loves us, but have fallen terribly short on teaching us how to love God back. Many of our youth, and even many not-so-youthful people, have been literally tricked into believing that God wants us to be happy, even to the point of "enjoying" sinfulness. This was my key error for justifying those Church teachings I blew off: God wants me to be happy. Yeah, right! As if there can be happiness in Hell.

A few years ago, I would probably have recommended seeking out an older priest who seriously values the Sacrament of Confession and knows the graces it brings to soul. The good news is that in growing numbers, it is not only that senior priest (you know - the one who is looked upon as an outcast by the "spirit of V2" crowd), but the younger and newer priests who are emphasizing the merits of Confession.

These priests are not annoyed with the Sacrament, but are interiorly joyful at the opportunity to bring a soul back to a state of grace, which is required for worthy reception of Holy Communion. The fruits of a poorly catechized Catholic community are seen in long Communion lines, but Confession lines that are low or non-existent.

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Monday, August 27, 2007

Get Your "Passport" Ready for Heaven, Says Pope

From Zenit.org, with emphases mine:


Stamp It With Works That Show Friendship With Christ

VATICAN CITY, AUG. 26, 2007 (Zenit.org).- Heaven is an equal-opportunity destination, but to gain entry one needs a "passport" stamped with virtues such as humility, mercy and truth, says Benedict XVI.

The Pope said this today in a reflection he gave on the "narrow gate," before reciting the midday Angelus with several thousand people gathered in the courtyard of the papal summer residence at Castel Gandolfo.

The Pontiff asked: "What is meant by this 'narrow gate'? Why is it that many people do not succeed in entering through it? Is it perhaps a passage that is reserved only for a few elect?"

The Holy Father said that the message of Christ is that everybody has an equal chance of entering through the narrow gate, "but it is 'narrow' because it is demanding, it requires commitment, self-denial and mortification of one's own egoism."

Christ invites all to heaven, he said, "but with one and the same condition: that of making the effort to follow him and imitate him, taking up one's cross, as he did, and dedicating one's life to the service of our brothers."

Benedict XVI makes the point that "we will not be judged on the basis of presumed privileges, but by our works."

"True friendship with Christ," he added, "is expressed by one's way of life: it is expressed by goodness of heart, with humility, meekness and mercy, love of justice and truth, sincere and honest commitment to peace and reconciliation."

The Pope adds, "This, we might say, is the 'I.D. card' that qualifies us as authentic 'friends'; this is the 'passport' that permits us to enter into eternal life."

Before I begin a rather indepth commentary, I wish to provide a disclaimer. I am single and don't have children. Some of this comes from how I was raised and in seeing the sacrifices my mom and dad made in their lives. I see some of those same values in Grotto families and wish to expand on them more here because Pope Benedict has opened the door for the topic.

Mortification? Didn't Vatican II do away with that?

The very points the Holy Father makes in this article on yesterday's Gospel reading are points which have me glued to Assumption Grotto. I can't recall hearing about things like mortification and self-denial in the many years I spent outside of this fine parish and I credit the priests for having the courage to discuss what has become undiscussible. No. Vatican II never did away with concepts of mortification, self-denial, and sacrifice, but it is terminology missing from many puplits today. Yet, are these not the very things needed to serve brother and sister? And, such service is a fruit of our relationship with God, Whom is Love.

IT ALL STARTS AT HOME

Moms

When we think of service, we often think of serving those on the streets or the homeless - a very noble thing to be involved with. However, something I noticed as an "outsider" when I first discovered Assumption Grotto in 2005 is the charity visible in many families - the first place we should mirror the love of Christ. When I observed many families who are visibly open to every life that God sends them - whether just one, or 8 or 17, I could see the self-denial of mothers caring for their brood with joy. These mothers don't belong to bowling leagues, they don't get a day to spend a chunk of money at the mall and they don't get to have a $3.00 capuccino on a daily basis.

The families themselves make sacrifices by accepting all that comes with stay-at-home moms, many of whom are well-educated or well-skilled professionals who happily give up the bigger house and material things for an opportunity to raise their own children. The children don't get all of the latest electronic gadgets, the designer clothes, and other vanity-building material goods, but they learn how to temper wants and to distinguish those wants from needs.

I remember as a child being jealous because the neighbors got to go to McDonald's more often. I didn't see the sacrifice my mother was making in putting hours into a much cheaper and much more wholesome homemade meal. Mom's who make sacrifices know that the family can eat for days on the same amount it costs to eat just once at a fast-food restaurant. And, they can be made with less fat, less sodium, and much more nutritious - something we should want for those we love.

In some cases, mom's must make the sacrifice of working because of debt not associated with too many material goods. My mother wanted very badly to be a stay-at-home mom, but had to go to work when medical bills exceeded what my dad's income could handle. He had been hospitalized for a year with pancreatic tumors and nearly died. When, by the grace of God he got better, mom had to go to work. But, I now see the graces associated with it by the slack me and my siblings had to pick up. We had to play a greater role in helping out around the house. The key difference is in why two spouses must work. Is it to support "wants", or "needs"?

Perhaps we need to do an examination of conscience on what "needs" really are before we can truly answer that question for ourselves.

Dads

Dad doesn't get to join an endless number of sports leagues or watch his favorite sports. Some of the best dads I know love to watch football, basketball, or baseball, but deny themselves this without complaining to spend precious Sunday time with the family and kids. They recognize the need for this, given how little time they see them while at work. My dad knew how to cook and wash clothes - something he learned to do out of love for my mother who needed an occasional break. In some cases, fathers are so busy with their first responsibility - providing for the family and spending time with them - that it is not even practical for them to participate in any of the fine apostolates we have at our parish. This itself is a sacrifice, which at times, is the right sacrifice, if it interferes with job-1: the family.

Spouses

I have known people - men and women - who for the sake of involvement in a parish, allow their marriage to fall apart when they don't temper the time spent in those activities. This is not self-denial, but a misguided application of serving the Lord. In these cases, the sacrifice should have been made by spending less time at the parish. Spouses should also consider the sacrifice of allowing each other a little time away in activities that will build virtue and enhance the spiritual life so it is a sacrifice to "let go" of a spouse. For those who do have a little spare time, it becomes a sacrifice to join organizations like the Knights of Columbus where self-denial comes in the form of spending a Sunday afternoon or weekday evening helping at a parish function or charity event, rather than watching a football game. The Knights give up every Tuesday night to run a bingo at St. Sharbel's parish hall in Warren. Do we make the sacrifice when we can to go and support them in this fund-raiser for the parish, if we can spare the money?

Kids

Children need opportunities to make small sacrifices and I see this at Grotto too. Siblings care for siblings in order to give mom a break. They help with work around the house to lessen the load on mom and dad, while picking up useful skills and mortifying that endless appetite to be entertained and to just hang-out - a past time not without spiritual dangers. I've known parents who wash their children's clothes all the way up to and through college. I am amazed to see a young adult - male or female - who has no idea how to put on a load of clothes to wash. There is a temptation to do it all for the kids without realizing the greater sacrifice is in teaching them skills they will need for life, while occupying idle time. Kids as young as 10 or 11 are capable of learning to wash and fold a load of towels if properly taught. This enables them to share in making sacrifices and to learn how to mortify the apetite to serve only the "I", and no one else - a problem so visible in society today.

SECONDLY: THE EXTENDED FAMILY

Charity and self-denial don't end with immediate family. There are needy siblings, elderly parents and grandparents who provide all of us with opportunities to practice mortification. That is, the opportunity to do not what we want, but what God places in our path. I just heard on Catholic radio that nursing homes are overflowing with elderly people whom no one visits. Many of these are alzheimers patients who may not recognize us, but nonetheless still need t be loved. Whatever their favorite dish, they will undoubtedly still enjoy those old familiar tastes regardless of their ability to remember.

Visiting a relative with alzheimers or dementia provides us with a great opportunity to practice charity without getting nothing in return. Anything we may do for them may be forgotten only a few seconds later. In some cases, older people need to be in nursing homes if they are a danger to themselves or others, or if their needs are such that physically we cannot care for them. But, how many are willing to make the sacrifice of taking in an elderly parent or in-law who truly doesn't need a nursing home? What must we give up, but time to the service of others in such a case? This time could be spent watching TV, surfing the net, playing sports, or working excessively in order to keep up with the many non-essential material goods that have no role in our getting through the narrow gate.

THIRDLY: OUR LESS FORTUNATE BRETHREN

It's only by the grace of God that we have the work to sustain our lives, a roof over our heads, the food on our table and the clothes on our backs. All it takes is one event out of our control to all fade quickly. While God provides for the needs of the birds and the fish, he depends on us to be the instruments by which this gets done for our needy neighbors. God's love is manifest in the love we give to them in their time of need, while providing opportunities of self-denial and mortifcation for us.

If we have done our best to give up the non-essentials in life, then the children have a good start in witnessning what it means to die to self. But, it's not enough to start and end with the family. Rather, families need to spend some of that time to do no-cost activities in the form of service. It could be at a prayer vigil outside of an abortion clinic, or in taking used items to a crisis pregnancy center, such as Imago Dei. It could be in taking food and clothing to homeless shelters and food pantries. Taking the kids to the nursing home and hospital is also a must if they are to learn by example.

When we follow through with the kind of self-denial, mortification, humility and charity about which our Holy Father speaks, we have begun the trek through the narrow gate.

ST. MONICA - EXEMPLIFIES SACRIFICE

In closing, I would like to point to St. Monica as an example. She could have used her spare time to do so many other things, but she chose to make the sacrifice of using time to pray for her beloved son, St. Augustine.

While we can use some of our spare time to rest watching TV or doing other things, why not rest in prayer for at least 15 minutes daily for the benefit of our family members and friends.

May we learn from St. Monica how to work and hope for the salvation of all those we know and come into contact with, especially family members.


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